Just so you know, all of the stuff about "it's not whether you win or lose ~ it's how you play the game" is all a bunch of malarky! Winning DOES matter! I have been on a losing streak in tennis with my singles game. Today, I came out on top and the feeling of winning put me on top of the world for the rest of the day. Winning matters, A LOT!
It took me years and years to get to this point. When the boys started playing hockey I would get so angry with the parents who got so excited when their kid would score or their team was winning. I kept telling myself "REALLY, it's not whether you win or lose..." What a bunch of crap! I finally learned to accept the fact that winning matters and winning is FUN!
Now, I am one of the parents who used to irritate the bejeepers out of me. I cheer when the kids score and I am louder than most when the kids' teams are winning. I LOVE winning!
My hope is I am not obnoxious about winning (but I think I am at the hockey rink). Today, I tried hard to keep my enthusiasm under control as I handily beat my opponent. I am not sure I succeeded. A hug and a handshake from our team captain was better than a high-five and a hoot and holler but I think the "celebration" could have waited until after the entire match was over and we were in the car on the way home.
Hopefully, through all of my blunders ~ first thinking it's only how you play the game that matters and now my semi-obnoxiousness when the wins happen ~ my kids will learn that winning does matter but being gracious not only when you win but also when you lose is incredibly important in life.
Oh, for the love of my children...