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Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Bad Behavior All Around

My blog from the other day Coaches With Class has created a shit storm like nothing I've ever experienced.  I've had comments flying in.  Most were favorable.  Some were negative.  And a few were downright nasty.

It was downright bad behavior.

The nasty comments were all comments made directly to my blog page.  Those comments can't be published unless I say they can be published.  I won't post them to my blog, but I am going to tell you what was said to me by anonymous readers.

The other day I received emails letting me know I had comments awaiting moderation.   The emails were from anonymous readers, and they told me I was stupid, ignorant and a dumb ass for writing about what happened at one of Zach's recent lacrosse games.  I will reiterate what I said in my On Being a Jerk blog, this is my story, from my point of view. I would never think to call someone a dumb ass for telling their story, especially not anonymously.  If you want to know what I think about something ask me, and I will tell you.  I won't do it anonymously.  I'll either write about it with my name attributed to it or I'll talk about it.  I won't wait for anonymous comments to be moderated to let someone know what I think.  

I was also told, anonymously, that I need to look in the mirror when it comes to classless behavior.  Several of my previous blogs were quoted by "anonymous," but they were quoted out of context.  If the blogs "anonymous" quoted were read from start to finish, or if "anonymous" read my blogs regularly, they would have seen that I call myself out on bad behavior more so than I call out other's bad behavior. In all of my blogs, I try to be as honest as I can and if I have to throw myself under the bus to tell my story I will do it.  I'm the first one to tell you my behavior was wrong or bad.  I've said it time and time again in my blogs.  That is the point of my blog....We all screw up.  Not one of us is perfect. We learn from our mistakes and go on.

So I can guarantee you that I'm not perfect.  I don't even pretend to be perfect.  I screw up.  But I do work hard to learn from my mistakes and move forward. I saw a quote today that said, "Perfection is a mean, frozen form of idealism, while messes are the artist's true friend."(Anne Lamott)  That's me...a true mess, much less than perfect.

Most importantly, though, I'm always willing to learn from my mistakes and move forward...

Zach told me last night that my blog about the game and the coaches sounded whiny.  If he said it sounded whiny I must have sounded like I whiny.  The truth is, I don't like losing to teams whose behavior seems less than favorable.  So I'm sure I sounded whiny just like I said I sounded in my Whiney-Loser Syndrome blog.  I'll be honest and admit that was probably an accurate description of me.

The point of this blog is that I want you to know that I'll keep calling out bad behavior ~ in myself and others, and I won't be cowed by anonymous comments. You are welcome to comment on my blog anytime, in fact I love it when I see a dialogue beginning.  I'll read every comment that comes in and I'll respond.  But I expect comments to be respectful and I'll be respectful in return.  Bad behavior all around is not what I want my kiddos to learn from me.

Oh, for the love of my children....




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